In any situation for any problem, take up a keyword in the situation.
For example, let us take the keyword UNCERTAINTY.
Your mind should get to that state of mind.
Some people are financially insecure by which they are unstable.
Some people want to get married; they are not getting married, so that they feel unstable.
Some people may have a back pain, thinking where is my place in the family? That is also insecurity.
Others feel uncertainty about position in the family or in the office.
Anytime in your life you would have felt that, either in the office, with friends or as far as finance is concerned, you would have felt unstable.
The uncertainty of the present is related to uncertainty in the past.
In the last 40 years, when did you feel uncertain? You would have felt unstable many times.
Think about that. It would have been almost the same situation or a different situation with the same feeling – feeling uncertain. Think whether your mother had the uncertainty.
Those days the feeling uncertainty would be revealed only in the form of anger.
They always express through anger and beat the children.
They can’t go out. They can’t divorce either.
The women’s life about 50-60 years back was hell and horrible.
Now do the same for the memories of father’s uncertainty.
In any situation there will be a predominate state of mind – is the keyword.
Check when you had similar feeling in the past. List them out.
If possible check out with your mother’s behaviour and feeling – when they felt uncertain.
It will match yours. Do the same for your father. Your father would have felt uncertain in his job.
Put all of them in the triangle and heal them.