Some aspects of disharmony

Naran S Balakumar With a desire to be loved is taken care, everyone enters the family. Is it not? Whenever there is any expectation, there will be disappointment also. When the spouse says something or does something you dislike or disagree, you start resisting him inwardly. It’s the first step. After the marriage, somewhere the dislike starts and you don’t discuss it openly. You keep the disagreement or disappointment within yourself. So the likes changes into dislike. In the initial stages, it could have been expressed. But, normally nobody express it properly, keeps it in the mind and suppressing it. This continues till it changes into resentment and anger. Who started the anger and resentment first? Nobody knows. Till it develops into anger and resentment, it’s a silent cold war only. Anger always separates. Love binds. Initially, on the first day, you may have loved. Because of the disagreement, distance develops and anger separates you. The wall is formed between two. It may be a husband and wife; boss or employer. You find ways to blame, criticise the opposite person or you talk behind him. You always have a tendency to think that the other person is always wrong. We never say that ‘I am wrong’. So that we try to correct others at the starting point itself. You feel rejected. This rejection makes somebody suspicious also. The male persons seek extra marital solace. Sometimes, the same relationship makes you feel numb.