Naran Why do you like somebody? It is because he or she gives you happiness.
I release my desire to seek happiness through him.
What is actually happening inside me? The person might change. You could not like him then. If you do not get happiness because of the change in him then you do not want him to change.
Here, desire to control is operating. Release that. I notice, now I have a desire to seek happiness through that person. Thus, everything is conditional, which is our (human) nature.
Ask the question, 'What is the pleasure or pain that I operate from?' Desire to control or change is always with us. As long desire to control is operating, harmony cannot be established as it is compromised. Therefore, change your desire to control.
I release my desire to change him.
I release my anger about him.Even if he says good things, you reject it for you do not want his approval (as you dislike him).