Look at oneself firstThis is Drama of Life and if one understands, we will come to know, realize and understand that we have to bring in change in ourselves only. We have to direct the mind towards oneself and then towards others. This is the basis of all healing modalities. The nature always expects us to move towards perfection. In this process, one understands not only the DIVINE ORDER, but also realizes that one has to rise above the mind and its tantrums, and become spiritual. All healing methods help a person to understand his/her own potentials.
Others are mirrors of yourselfBefore trying to change the other person do this exercise on you first. Take a piece of paper and write about him first. Whatever you wanted to say about him write it.
Insert the word ‘I’ wherever you have put ‘He’. For example, “He never takes the treatment properly and he escapes”, should be rewritten as "I never take the treatment properly. I escape." Change what all you have written about him Into I.
Now affirm, “I never take the treatment properly. I escape. In spite of this, I accept myself totally”.Do three rounds of tapping for each sentence.
Do the forgiving exercise for them. “I forgive you …. (Name) you please forgive me and release me”.
Send Reiki to him daily.
Problem is the source of solutionWhoever is causing problem to you, can only give you solution. Whoever irritates or angers you, can only give you peace. You cannot change your husband. You want him for your status and security. Then you have to heal yourself. Forgive.
You only have to make your life peaceful. For getting peace with such a person, you have to shed your ego and heal yourself.
Heal your controlling tendenciesHeal your anger and controlling tendency. We always like people who comply or who just listen to us or obey us implicitly. That is why we want all the people to do this and that as well as agree with us, whatever we say. When there is slight disagreement, dissent or difference of opinion, we may not like the person. This dislike of the person who disagrees and the like of the person who agrees create conflicts in life.
Both are born from our controlling tendency – desire to control or change. Release your desire to control and change others.