Naran
How liking for a person operates inside the mind? Take one person what you like about him and what you don’t like about him, say your spouse for example. You have a liking for the person. What is the desire operating behind this like? For some reason you like him. Whoever listens to us we like them. If somebody argues with us, even if they tell the truth we don’t like them. Therefore, when we like somebody we have to like him for some reason. It could be based on desire for approval or desire to associate.
Therefore, shall we say, ‘I release my desire to like him’. Because we have desire to possess, when that person is around, we feel happy. When they go away from us, then we do not feel happy and start hating that person. Did you release the liking for that person? We are not sure, so we are not releasing it. When you release your likes about a person, everything will go on well between you and the concerned person. Love will get stronger.
Release all your likes and dislike for the same person.
How does dislike operates? If they are like this, then I am happy about them. Thus, a desire to control or change the person operates here.
Therefore, welcome your dislike and release your dislike.
Then accept your desire to control and release it as well.