GADuring last week, I had been diagnosed with ectopic/tubal pregnancy. Foetus was healthy and well growing, but growing at wrong place. So, as per doctor’s advice, I had to terminate that pregnancy. I remained sad for one two days and not only me but whole family was sad. I know everything is happening for the best and according to all merciful supreme lords’ will. I myself have seen so many worst looking events turning into beneficial ones afterwards. But, during the moments of emotional trauma all this theoretical and practical knowledge disappears from mind. Is there any method or technique other than meditation to train our minds to happily and calmly accept all such events, which are beyond our control and purely according to divine will? And how should we perceive such incidents to feel less or no grief?
NaranFeeling less grief is not to be imposed. Go through the emotions, which naturally surface and bow to them and come out. When there is great distress over grief or when there is reason for grieving, weep, weep. Weeping is easy way of reaching the divine. Let us not feel shy for weeping. Yes, there was expectation in vain. Feel sad and weep to get over that. Weeping intensely will ultimately relieve you from the burden. A solace is given by weeping. When you think that you can no more weep, just say, “I bow to this weeping and go beyond this state.” Repeat within after the weeping episode, the Radha’s prayer: “Krishna, my lord, whether thou chooses for me life or death, happiness or sorrow , pleasure or suffering, all that comes to me from thee, is always welcome”.